We live in a world with a scarcity mentality

This week I was reading one of my favourite authors @brenebrown in her book “Daring Greatly”. I love this author because researches vulnerability, guilt, and the courage to transform our lives through daring greatly.

I was very taken by the issue of scarcity. Have you not noticed that we live in a perpetual scarcity-type mentality? We are always thinking that we don't have or do enough. And we can see it in all areas of our lives. You can fill in the space of the following sentence, with the word that works for you the most or with which you connect with the most:

I am not enough ---------------------- (good, rich, talented, smart, skinny, powerful, successful, confident, extraordinary, muscular). The list can be endless.

We compare ourselves all the time with others and assume that others have more than I do, are happier, live happier, have better relationships with their partners, are skinnier, have more time to do what they like, have more money, etc. . And the only thing we turn to see in ourselves is the lack, the lack of everything that we think we do not have.

Even when we wake up in the morning, we wake up saying we don't get enough sleep or we won't have enough time to do EVERYTHING we have to do during the day. At night we go to sleep and we do not complete the to-do list that we set out to do during the day and therefore we feel sacarcity.

My feeling right now is for example, that when we decide to go on a diet or when we diet and restrict our way of eating or that of our patients / clients, the only thing we are doing is perpetuating this culture of lack. We go deeper into the culture of lack, of scarcity and that leads us to continue perpetuating this idea that we do not have enough, or we are not enough. Therefore, we want to look for ways to "fill that emptiness", the void.

We each have different ways of trying to fill those voids. Food is probably one of them for you, or excessive exercise. An interesting exercise would be to write a list of the ways that I feel lack or scarcity in my life. Followed by a column with the ways in which I try to fill these supposed voids in my life.

Let teach ourselves and others how to eat healthily and sustainably and enjoy healthy food and not count calories, and not to have to feel the lack of “having to stop eating” in order to be able to be in a certain way because "I am lacking."

Do not let the culture of scarcity make you look for unattainable forms of perfection that cannot befilled, neither with food, nor with diets, nor with surgeries, nor with exercise, nor with botox, nor with ……. Again, fill in the gap with whatever your way of filling the void is.

Life is abundant. Be grateful for what you have and connect with that abundance.

Claudia Hunot PhD